Few things are more difficult to live with than being misunderstood . Sometimes it’s downright unbearable.
When you are misunderstood, you have no defence.
And have you noticed that when you are misunderstood, no matter how hard you try to correct the Misunderstanding, it usually gets worst?
You go fully loaded, ready to “set them straight” and all you do is dig yourself deeper ! The harder you work ,the worst it gets and the deeper it hurts.its Sting can be paralyzing.
Here are the keys to overcome misunderstanding
Be Respectful: You may be the boss, but you still want to build positive, collegial relationships that will ensure your employees are engaged, motivated and satisfied with their work.
Woods suggests being “conscious of how your tone or volume of your voice can combine with your body language to reveal your emotions.” The trick is to turn your passion into a positive attribute, and not let it create fissures.
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Don’t beat around the bush
Building trust requires being honest. Be clear and forthright about what you mean when meeting with an employee.
When you get a response, ask questions to make sure you and the employee are on the same page. Woods suggests that people fear being misunderstood, dismissed or labeled.
If that is happening, it’s critical to confront that fear, get it out in the open and then clarify matter.
Stay open to change
Be sure to listen, ask questions and take the employee’s view into account. Sometimes your employee perceives the issue at hand or the circumstances differently.
Even though you may not necessarily change your view or the direction you want taken, it is important to understand the perspectives and concerns of your employees.
And in some cases, you in fact may want to alter course based on their feedback.
Conversations do not always have to center on work. Get to know your employees. Woods suggests talking about issues that make you the same such as “family, ambitions, fears, passions.”
Finding common ground creates “good faith you’ll need to draw on when conversations get tense.” In this same vein, Woods recommends making it a priority to keep learning something new about your colleagues.
Never give up
If a conversation is uncomfortable, there will be a natural tendency to avoid conflict and sweep matters under the rug.
As Woods notes, “the toughest thing to do when something is uncomfortable is to keep doing it.” But he points out that it is important to “stay in the room” and work to make sure there is “gain on the other side of the pain.”
Having productive conversations and avoiding managers and employees talking past each other requires effort, patience and persistence.
It also means that, as a leader, you must be willing to understand, appreciate and in some cases accommodate the views of your employees, or at least clearly explain your views and the reasons for your decisions.
Finally let me tell you, the person who coexist with understanding and bitterness is miserable. Learn to give every situation over to God and say-” Lord, I am defenseless. I am misunderstood.
I am right ,but they will never believe it. You take over.”- God will perform the most unbelievable feats as He glorifies His name in your life.