Faithfulness :A key to successful marriage


Faithfulness is the concept of unfailingly remaining loyal to someone or something, and putting the loyalty into consistent practice regardless of extenuating circumstances.

The vows we make to one another on our wedding day is a promise to be faithful to one another.

We declare to each other and in front of our loved ones that we are in. We are there for the good, the bad, and the ugly.

We are each other’s people for life! It is such a beautiful and powerful pledge of commitment that we make to one another.

The covenant of marriage that God honors and desires us to remain faithful to whenever possible. Matthew 19:6 says it

this way, “So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

God desires those heartfelt and optimistic words we declare at the start of our marriage to remain true over the course of the life we spend with our partners.

God also knows this is not an easy task! Choosing to love the same person over years of new responsibilities, needs, interests, wishes, struggles, pains, and joys requires more than we have to give on our own strength.

We need Jesus to be able to faithfully love each other well. Let’s explore what God’s

word says about remaining faithful to our marriage and some practical ways we can live this out in our daily lives together.

Here are 3 Scriptures about faithfulness:

1. Galatians 5:22-23
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things, there is no law.”

God’s Spirit alive in us looks like living a life marked by the fruits of the Spirit. This is the evidence that we are followers of Jesus.

These are the things that set us apart from the world around us. That evidence includes being faithful to our relationships, commitments, believes, to God, and to our marriages.

2. 1 Corinthians 10:13
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”

We don’t have to be faithful through our own strength. God knows that we will be tempted, that life is filled with hardship, and

that darkness seeks to entice us with the lie of forbidden pleasure. God encourages us but reminding us that HE IS FAITHFUL.

We can overcome the temptations that are common to this world because God’s power is at work in our lives. He gives us the strength we need to remain faithful to our commitments.

3. Proverbs 28:20
“A faithful man will abound with blessings, but whoever hastens to be rich will not go unpunished.”

Our faithfulness to living a righteous and committed life does not go unnoticed by God. He promises that our efforts will be blessed.

God is pleased when we choose to be faithful in our marriages.

How Can We Be Faithful to Our Spouses?
Remaining faithful to our spouses requires more of us than just not having an

extramarital relationship. It requires us to be present, engaged, loving, committed, and willing to forgive over and over again.

What does that look like in practical terms? Here are some ideas for you.

1. Be Honest with One Another

Honesty creates security in your relationship.

A few years back my husband and I went through about a year of counseling together and the first question our counselor asked

was if we had been honest with each other. He wanted to know if we had any major breaks of trust in our past or present.

Thankfully, we could answer this question with a yes and our counselor confidently said that we could get through our

struggles. As long as we had trust we could rectify the other broken parts of our marriage.

Research has found that the number one issue that came up for married couples was trust and betrayal.

Honesty ensures that we are living in a true shared reality with one another. We have to be open in our communications with one

another not to just avoid major betrayals but also so we are not blindsided by smaller ways that we fail to share our truths with one another.

INFIDELITY A poison to successful marriage

Infidelity is devastating to a marriage. There are many reasons why sex happens outside of marriage. Some people get trapped in

affairs to give a conscious or subconscious “wake-up call” to the spouse. This might happen if your spouse has a different kind of lover outside of the marriage, such as a consuming career. Another reason some

people get wrapped up in affairs is to inflate a bruised ego. You might want to get back at your spouse for something he or she did that hurt you rather than offering

forgiveness and dealing with the root issue. Then, there are the friendships that get out of control where one thing, leads to another thing. Another big reason why people have affairs is because their spouse doesn’t live

up to their expectations anymore. You know your spouse’s good and bad qualities, while you may not know those of the other partner

because you don’t know him or her well enough. This is when you begin romanticizing a relationship, fanaticizing

about what could be with the person who isn’t your spouse and creating barriers within your own marriage.

Infidelity or adultery is one of the most frequently and severely condemned sins in the Bible. Adultery is mentioned 52 times,

including in the Ten Commandments, all four Gospels, and ten other books of the Bible. Only the sins of idolatry, self-righteousness and murder are mentioned more often.

In the Old Testament, adultery was understood as sexual relations between a married (or betrothed) woman and man

other than her husband. It was therefore a sin against the husband. In the New Testament, Jesus extended the definition of adultery to include sexual relations between

a married man and a woman other than his wife. Jesus said, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband

and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:11-12). People often wonder if an exception is allowed in cases where the spouse cannot or will not have sex, or if the

couple is separated, or for other reasons. However, the Bible doesn’t mention any possible exceptions. Therefore, as long as a couple is legally married, sex with anyone else is considered adultery.

The Bible mentions that adultery is grounds for divorce but does not require it. In many cases, the husband and wife can be

reconciled and the marriage saved after adultery. It is not a sin to continue to live with and have sex with a spouse who has committed adultery.

While there are a number of reasons for infidelity, the majority of the cases occur because of a need to be emotionally connected. Human beings have a deep-

rooted need to be wanted, needed and understood. Ideally, this need is met in a marital relationship. However, if it isn’t, a spouse may look for emotional or physical

fulfillment elsewhere, which results in marital infidelity. God designed sex to be enjoyed within a committed marital relationship. When it is removed from that

context, it not only perverts its use, but also limits its enjoyment. Sex involves a level of intimacy that’s not possible in any other human relationship. When God brought

Adam and Eve together in marriage, He established the “one flesh” relationship (Genesis 2:24). The Bible tells us that a man

should leave his family, join his wife and become “one flesh” with her. This idea is carried through the New Testament as well.

It is also clear in Jesus’ words. Paul expands on the “one flesh” idea in 1 Corinthians 6:12-20. He says that when a

man has sex with a prostitute, they have become “one body” (1 Corinthians 6:16). It’s clear here that sex is not simply a biological function.

When it comes to sexual pleasure in the Bible, it is often spoken of in the context of marriage. May God help us to remain faithful in our marriage.

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