Diocese Of Aba Ngwa North 2023 Church Worker’s Wives And Female Staff Retreat

A retreat is a time of rest, reflection, and spiritual renewal. It is typically an opportunity for believers to step away from their everyday lives and spend dedicated time in prayer, meditation, and the study of scripture. Retreats can take place at a retreat center or other location that is conducive to contemplation and solitude, and can be organized around a particular theme or focus. Some people choose to attend retreats on their own, while others participate in group retreats with other believers. The goal of a retreat is to deepen one’s relationship with God and to find spiritual nourishment and guidance.

The Diocese Of Aba Ngwa North (Anglican Communion) 2023 annual church worker’s wives and married female staff retreat was held at Ngwa High school Abayi, Aba on Wednesday 4th to Friday 6th 2023.

Theme: ” It is mine,I must keep It”(Rev.3:11)

Sub-theme: ” Going Beyond In Using Your Skills and Gifts For The Lord’s Glory”(Mathew 25:15-16)

The retreat was opened with opening formalities – Devotion by Rev.Obika Felix.


He says,  in Matthew 25:15-16, Jesus tells a parable about three servants who were entrusted with various amounts of money (also known as talents) by their master before he went on a journey. Two of the servants put their talents to use and earned a profit for their master, but the third servant buried his talent out of fear and did not use it at all. When the master returned, he commended the first two servants for their faithfulness and rewarded them, but he punished the third servant for his lack of action.

This parable teaches us that God has given each of us unique skills and talents, and He expects us to use them for His glory. It is not enough to simply possess these gifts; we must actively put them to use in order to fulfill our purpose and serve others. As clergy wives, you have the opportunity to use your skills and gifts to serve the Lord and His kingdom in a variety of ways. Some ideas might include using your gifts to serve in your church or community, sharing your talents with others through teaching or mentorship, or using your skills to support and encourage your spouse in their ministry.

It is important to remember that our ultimate goal should be to bring glory to God, not to ourselves. As you seek to use your skills and gifts for the Lord, be sure to keep Him at the center of your efforts and to rely on His strength and guidance. May the Lord bless you as you seek to serve Him and others in His name.


After the opening devotion,the trainer Evangelist Mrs Joy chinonyerem Onwunli rendered her opening address. After the address the the bible study was done by our father in the lord Venerable Chris Ibe.

After the bible study, the first seminar of the retreat was handled by Mrs Nkeiru Michael. And the topic of the seminar was captioned “Character and Charisma – Issues of Respect”.

She started by telling us the definitions of the following terms.

Character :Character refers to the moral qualities that define a person’s individual nature. It is the sum of a person’s values, beliefs, and personality traits that make them who they are.

Charisma: refers to a personal quality that makes someone charming and attractive to others. It is a natural charm and likability that allows someone to effortlessly influence and inspire others.

 Respect : is a feeling of admiration or deference for someone or something. It is often shown through actions such as listening to what someone has to say and treating them with kindness and consideration.

How is character, charisma and respect formed?

She told us that character, charisma, and respect are all qualities that are developed over time, and they are influenced by a variety of factors.

Character is a person’s moral nature, and it is shaped by their experiences, values, and beliefs. It is influenced by the way a person was raised, the people they spend time with, and the choices they make. Someone with strong character is known for being honest, reliable, and trustworthy.

Charisma is a person’s ability to attract and influence others. It is often characterized by charm, confidence, and charisma, and it can be used to inspire and motivate others. Charisma is often innate, but it can also be developed through practice and by learning how to effectively communicate and interact with others.

Respect is a positive feeling or action shown towards someone or something that is considered worthy or important. It is often earned through trustworthiness, reliability, and by consistently demonstrating good character. People who are respectful of others are generally well-liked and respected in return.

In summary, character is formed by a person’s experiences, values, and beliefs, charisma is influenced by a person’s ability to communicate and interact with others, and respect is earned through trustworthiness and good character.

After that she listed the areas to strive for excellence so we can earn the respect of those around us, increase our influence.
Seminar 2:
Another seminar was handled by Evangelist Mrs Goodness Iheancho. She taught on the topic that says “Coping with Financial Challenge In The Women Ministry”
She started with the definition of the following terms
A) Coping
B) Financial
C) challenge
After the explanation of the above terms She listed and explained 14 strategies to cope with the financial challenge in the women ministry. She went further with the hindrances to coping with financial challenges.
Challenges are part of life. You can only cope with challenges when you embrace it  not  when you run away from it, therefore,  God is calling on us to use all that he has given us to deal with these challenges and bring glory to his name.
Day two retreat started with praises and worship, and  opening devotion by Evangelist Mrs Beauty Amadi. After that, the bible study was done by  Venerable Chris.  After that, Health Talk was handled by Ambassador Jerry C.Nduka .
The topic of the Health Talk was “You and Your diet” .

“You and your diet” is a phrase that refers to the specific dietary habits and practices of an individual. It includes the foods and beverages that a person consumes on a regular basis, as well as any conscious choices or restrictions they may make in regards to their diet. For example, if someone says “You and your diet are doing great,” they might be complimenting someone on their ability to maintain a healthy, balanced diet. Alternatively, if someone says “You and your diet need to change,” they might be suggesting that the individual’s current dietary habits are not ideal for their health and could be improved upon. The phrase “You and your diet” highlights the personal nature of an individual’s dietary choices, and the importance of these choices in maintaining overall health and well-being.

Other activities that was done are as follows:
Seminar : Crisis Management in the                               home by Dr. Mrs. Glory Udobioma.
Text: James 4:1

Crisis management in the home (marriage) refers to the strategies and actions that a couple takes to address and resolve conflicts and problems that arise within the relationship. These crises can range from minor disagreements to major problems such as infidelity or abuse.

Effective crisis management in a marriage involves a number of steps, including:


  1. Identifying the problem: The first step in crisis management is to identify the problem or issue that is causing the crisis. This may require both partners to be open and honest about their feelings and concerns.

  2. Communicating openly and honestly: It’s important for both partners to communicate openly and honestly about their feelings and needs during a crisis. This can help to prevent misunderstandings and reduce the likelihood of the crisis escalating.

  3. Working together: The key to effective crisis management in a marriage is for both partners to work together to resolve the problem. This may require compromise and a willingness to listen to each other’s perspective.

        4. Above all invite the holy spirit

By following these steps, couples can effectively manage crises and work to strengthen their relationship.

Health Talk: Health implications of                                    bitterness by Mrs Ahunna Ajero.


Bitterness is an emotional state characterized by feelings of resentment, anger, and hostility. It is often associated with negative thoughts and behaviors, such as hostility, aggression, and a lack of forgiveness. While it is natural to feel bitter at times, especially in response to hurt or injustice, chronic bitterness can have negative impacts on both physical and mental health.

One of the main health implications of bitterness is that it can lead to an increase in stress levels. When we feel bitter, we may ruminate on negative thoughts and feelings, which can cause our body to release stress hormones such as cortisol. Chronic high levels of cortisol can have a range of negative effects on the body, including increased blood pressure, weight gain, and a weakened immune system.

Bitterness can also lead to social isolation and a lack of social support, which are both important for our overall well-being. When we are bitter, we may be less inclined to engage with others, or we may push people away with our negative attitude. This lack of social support can have negative impacts on our mental health, as social connections are an important factor in maintaining good mental health.

Another health implication of bitterness is that it can lead to a negative outlook on life. When we are bitter, we may focus on the negative aspects of life and be less able to find joy and meaning in our experiences. This negative outlook can lead to feelings of hopelessness and depression, which can have serious impacts on our mental health.

In addition to these mental health impacts, bitterness can also have negative effects on our physical health. Research has shown that people who score high on measures of bitterness have a higher risk of developing chronic health conditions such as heart disease, diabetes, and even cancer. This may be due to the fact that chronic bitterness is associated with unhealthy behaviors such as smoking, unhealthy eating, and a lack of physical activity, all of which can increase the risk of these conditions.

Overall, it is clear that bitterness can have serious negative impacts on both physical and mental health. It is important to recognize when we are feeling bitter and to work on managing these emotions in healthy ways. This may involve seeking support from friends and family, finding healthy outlets for our feelings, or seeking professional help if necessary. By addressing our bitterness, we can improve our overall well-being and lead happier, healthier lives.


Talk: The word of God in you

           by Venerable Ben Nwokedi


The phrase “the word of God in you” refers to the presence of God’s message or truth within a person. This can take many forms, such as the teachings of Jesus Christ as recorded in the Bible, personal revelation from God, or the inner promptings of the Holy Spirit.

The concept of the word of God being within a person can be traced back to the Bible itself. In Colossians 1:27, Paul writes, “To them God chose to make known how great among the Gentiles are the riches of the glory of this mystery, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory.” Here, Paul is saying that Christ, the word of God, is present within believers and serves as a source of hope and glory.

In the New Testament, the word of God is also often associated with the gospel, or the message of salvation through Jesus Christ. For example, in Romans 10:8, Paul writes, “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith that we proclaim). This passage suggests that the word of God, in this case the gospel, is not just something that is heard or read, but also something that is internalized and shared by believers.

The presence of the word of God within a person can have transformative effects. In James 1:21, it is written, “Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.” Here, the word of God is described as being implanted or rooted within a person, and it has the power to save their soul.

In addition to the word of God being present within believers through the gospel and the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, it can also be experienced through personal revelation and the inner promptings of the Spirit. In John 16:13, Jesus tells his disciples, “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.” This passage suggests that the Holy Spirit, who is the spirit of truth, will guide believers into a deeper understanding of God’s word and reveal to them the things that are to come.

In conclusion, the phrase “the word of God in you” refers to the presence of God’s message or truth within a person. This can take the form of the teachings of Jesus as recorded in the Bible, personal revelation, or the inner promptings of the Holy Spirit. The presence of the word of God within a person can have transformative effects and can be experienced through the gospel, the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, and personal revelation.

Seminar: Digital skills/resources for the                       21st century , clergy worker’s                       wife for personal growth,                                financial empowerment and                          growth of the ministry 

                          by Evangelist Mrs Joy chinonyerem Nwoko


Digital skills and resources can be extremely beneficial for personal growth, financial empowerment, and the growth of a ministry in the 21st century. In this day and age, it is increasingly important for individuals and organizations to have a strong online presence and to be proficient in using digital tools and platforms. This can enable them to reach a wider audience, streamline their operations, and access a vast array of information and resources.

Here are some specific digital skills and resources that can be particularly useful for a clergy worker’s wife to consider developing:

  1. Social media and online networking: Social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram can be powerful tools for building relationships, sharing information, and promoting events and initiatives. By establishing a strong online presence, a clergy worker’s wife can connect with others in the ministry, as well as with members of the community, and share updates, resources, and inspiration.

  2. Digital marketing and advertising: In order to reach a wider audience and promote the ministry’s activities and mission, it can be helpful to have a basic understanding of digital marketing and advertising. This can include creating and managing social media campaigns, developing email marketing strategies, and using paid advertising platforms such as Google AdWords and Facebook Ads.

  3. Content creation and management: In order to share information and resources with others, it is important to have strong writing and communication skills, as well as the ability to create engaging content. This can include writing blog posts, creating videos or podcasts, and managing the organization’s website.

  4. Project management tools: There are many tools and platforms available that can help with organizing and managing projects and tasks. These can include tools such as Asana, Trello, and Basecamp, which allow users to create and assign tasks, set deadlines, and track progress.

  5. Online learning resources: There are countless online resources available for learning new skills and staying up-to-date with the latest trends and developments. This can include online courses, webinars, and ebooks, as well as podcasts, blogs, and other forms of digital media.

  6. Financial management tools: In order to manage the ministry’s finances effectively, it can be helpful to have a basic understanding of financial management principles and to be familiar with financial management tools such as Quickbooks, Xero, and Wave. These tools can help with tracking expenses, creating and managing budgets, and generating financial reports.

  7. Data analysis and visualization tools: In order to make informed decisions and measure the impact of the ministry’s activities, it can be helpful to have a basic understanding of data analysis and visualization tools such as Excel, Google Sheets, and Tableau. These tools can help with organizing and analyzing data, and creating visualizations such as charts and graphs.

  8. Virtual meeting and collaboration tools: In the age of remote work and social distancing, it is increasingly important to be able to effectively collaborate and communicate with others online. Tools such as Zoom, Skype, and Google Meet can enable individuals to participate in virtual meetings and collaborate on projects from anywhere.


10 ways on How to Monetize digital skills
  1. Offer consulting or coaching services: If you have expertise in a particular area, you can offer consulting or coaching services to individuals or businesses. This can be done in person or over the phone or video call.

  2. Sell online courses: If you have knowledge or skills that you think others would be willing to pay to learn, you can create and sell an online course. This can be a one-time purchase or a subscription-based service.

  3. Create and sell ebooks: If you have a lot of knowledge about a particular topic, you can write and sell an ebook. Ebooks can be sold through online retailers such as Amazon or directly from your own website.

  4. Offer freelance services: If you have skills in a particular area, such as writing, design, or programming, you can offer freelance services to clients. This can be done through freelance marketplaces or by reaching out to potential clients directly.

  5. Build and sell software: If you have programming skills, you can create and sell software applications. This can be done through an app store or directly from your own website.

  6. Create and sell physical products: If you have design or manufacturing skills, you can create physical products and sell them through your own website or through online marketplaces such as Etsy.

  7. Sell stock photos or graphics: If you have a talent for photography or design, you can sell stock photos or graphics to businesses or individuals.

  8. Offer translation services: If you are fluent in multiple languages, you can offer translation services to businesses or individuals.

  9. Become a YouTuber: If you have a talent for creating videos, you can create a YouTube channel and monetize your videos through advertising revenue.

  10. Sell digital products on Etsy: Etsy is a marketplace for handmade or unique goods, but you can also sell digital products such as printables or graphics on the platform.

By developing and leveraging these digital skills and resources, a clergy worker’s wife can not only enhance her personal and professional growth, but also support the growth and effectiveness of the ministry. It is important to continuously learn and adapt to new technologies and platforms, as the digital landscape is constantly evolving.
Talk: The Power of a praying woman 
       By Rev.cannon Emma Ehilegbu

The phrase “The Power of a praying woman” refers to the belief that a woman who prays regularly and earnestly can wield a great deal of influence and power through the act of prayer. This power is not necessarily physical or tangible, but rather it is spiritual in nature, based on the idea that prayer can bring about positive change in a person’s life and the world around them.

There are several key themes that are often associated with the phrase “The Power of a praying woman.” One of these is the idea that prayer is a source of strength and comfort, especially in times of difficulty or hardship. When a woman prays, she is able to draw upon a deeper well of inner strength and resilience, and this can help her to persevere through challenges and overcome obstacles.

Another theme is the idea that prayer can bring about transformation, both in the individual praying and in the world around them. When a woman prays, she is able to connect with a higher power and tap into a source of divine wisdom and guidance. This can help her to gain a deeper understanding of herself and the world around her, and can inspire her to make positive changes in her life and the lives of those around her.

In addition to these themes, there are also many practical benefits to praying regularly. For example, prayer can help a woman to reduce stress and anxiety, and can provide a sense of calm and peace in the midst of chaotic or challenging circumstances. It can also help her to build stronger relationships, as it allows her to connect with others on a deeper, more meaningful level.

Overall, the phrase “The Power of a praying woman” highlights the many ways in which prayer can have a positive impact on a woman’s life, as well as the lives of those around her. Whether she is seeking strength, comfort, guidance, or transformation, prayer can provide a powerful source of support and inspiration. So, the phrase “The Power of a praying woman” means that a woman who prays regularly and earnestly can wield a great deal of influence and power through the act of prayer.


SEMinar : Anglican Minister’s wife: Life in and outside the personage.Attitude / Devotion to the ministry by Evangelist Mrs Chineye Nwokedi

Life begets life, fire begets fire, each and everyone of us as ministers wives, lady clerk that have one thing or the other to do with the parsonage environment and we are like a city set on a hill that cannot be hidden, even outside the paronage. thus if we are hoping to make positive impact and it affect lives of both members  inside and other lives outside we need to sit down and examine the kind of live we are living both inside and outside the parsonage.

She listed and explained the life in  and outside the parsonage.


As a Minister’s wife or workers wife our attitude must not pursue people both in and outside the parsonage. People must not avoid us or our office because of our attitude is odioud. May the lord help us develop and sustain holy attitude in and outside the parsonage..


Exposition on the theme

Going Beyond In Using Your Skills and Gifts For The Lord’s Glory” (Mathew 25:15-16). By Princess Mrs Jane Nwogu Nneobioma


In the parable of the talents, Jesus tells the story of a man who entrusts his property to his servants while he is away. He gives one servant five talents, another two talents, and a third servant one talent. The first two servants use their talents wisely and double the amount they were given, while the third servant buries his talent in the ground. When the man returns, he is pleased with the first two servants and rewards them, but he is disappointed with the third servant and punishes him.

This parable teaches us that we are all given different skills and gifts by God, and it is our responsibility to use them to the best of our ability for his glory. It does not matter whether we have been given a lot or a little, what matters is what we do with what we have been given.

As clergy wives, we have the opportunity to use our skills and gifts for the Lord’s glory in a variety of ways. Here are a few examples:

  1. Supporting our husband’s ministry: As clergy wives, one of the ways we can use our skills and gifts for the Lord’s glory is by supporting our husband’s ministry. This might involve helping to plan events, organizing volunteers, or providing emotional and spiritual support to our husband.

  2. Serving in the church: Many churches have a variety of ministry opportunities, and as clergy wives, we can use our skills and gifts to serve in these areas. For example, if you are a gifted musician, you might consider leading worship or teaching Sunday School. If you are skilled at organizing events, you might consider helping to plan church retreats or missions trips.

  3. Serving in the community: As clergy wives, we have the opportunity to use our skills and gifts to serve others in our community. This might involve volunteering at a local soup kitchen, working with a youth group, or providing support to families in need.

  4. Sharing our faith: We can also use our skills and gifts to share our faith with others. This might involve leading a Bible study, speaking at a women’s retreat, or writing articles or blog posts about our faith journey.

  5. Using our gifts to encourage others: As clergy wives, we can use our skills and gifts to encourage others in their faith journey. This might involve writing letters of encouragement, offering prayer support, or simply being a listening ear to those who are struggling.

In conclusion, as clergy wives, we have been given unique skills and gifts by God, and it is our responsibility to use them to the best of our ability for his glory. Whether we are supporting our husband’s ministry, serving in the church or community, sharing our faith, or encouraging others, we can use our skills and gifts to make a difference for God’s kingdom.

Mama Aba Ngwa North Closing remark

She started by thanking everybody. Then she concluded with this, As we strive to use our skills and gifts for the glory of the Lord, it is important to remember to always go beyond our own limitations and comfort zones. The Lord has given us unique abilities and it is our duty to use them to their fullest potential, not just for our own benefit, but for the benefit of others and for the glory of His kingdom. May we always seek to go above and beyond in using our talents and gifts for the Lord’s glory. So, always be ready to use your skills and gifts for the Lord’s glory and make the most of every opportunity that comes your way.

The retreat  ended with a powerful prayer.
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