Bible Lesson on relationships for youth has to do with some useful pieces of Practical wisdom acquired from the bible on relationship.
HERE ARE BIBLE LESSON ON RELATIONSHIPS FOR YOUTH
1. Alot of times, men want the title of headship then blame the woman when things go wrong. In Genesis 3: 12, despite Adam having authority, he blamed his wife when things went wrong by saying “It was this woman You gave me”. Husbands, take responsibility for the family called by your name, especially if you participate in messing things. Be a leader not an excuser
2. Don’t trust your wife’s decisions that are made out of fear and desperation. In Genesis 16, Sarai told Abram to have sex with the househelp Hagar because Sarai was desperate for a child but she was old. Abram did as asked. But when Hagar got pregnant for Abram, Sarai turned against Hagar and blamed Abram. Men, discern whether some of the choices your woman is suggesting are being said out of desperation. Choices made out of fear backfire on you
3. Find a friend who will remember your offspring. In 2 Samuel 9, David in honour of his close friend Jonathan, blessed the son of Jonathan (Mephibosheth) with wealth and access to his table. Find friends who will remember your children and who’ll be mindful of their welfare whether you are dead or alive
4. Parents sometimes start division in their children by showing favouritism. Genesis 37:3 says how Jacob loved Joseph more than any of his other sons and gave him special treatment leading to jealousy. Don’t do things that make your children perceive you have a favourite
5. When a man loves you, he will wait for you and fight for you. “So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.” Genesis 29: 20. When a man loves, he will wait and be patient to get the woman, even if it takes years
6. When you forfeit your purpose and make excuses for abdicating your role, you will fall into temptation. In 2 Samuel 11, instead of leading his army to war as King, David remained home and that was when he fell by having an affair with Bathsheba and killing her husband. Stay on role or you will be tempted
What Are The Dangers Or Consequences Of Anger?
7. Ladies, the right man will find you when you are busy being you and living out your purpose. In Ruth 2, Ruth was busy working when Boaz spotted her. Single ladies, don’t sit pretty putting your life on hold waiting for love. The right man will find you living out your purpose and will be attracted by how you do your purpose
8. Having sex is actually knowing your spouse. “And Adam knew Eve his wife” Genesis 2: 1. Making love is intimately knowing your spouse. How your spouse feels, responds to touch, enjoys sensations, sounds, moves, thinks, desires, loves, touches. It is more than just an orgasm. We are all different, study the one you are with
9. A wise man listens to the counsel of his wife whose counsel comes from a place of love. In Matthew 27: 19, when Pilate was about to issue a sentence on Jesus, his wife adviced him saying “Don’t have anything to do with that innocent man, for I have suffered a great deal today in a dream because of him” Pilate listened and the blood of Jesus is not on him. Husbands, seek counsel from your wife, sometimes they see what you don’t
10. A toxic woman will destroy a man. 1 Kings 21: 25 says “No one else so completely sold himself to what was evil in the LORD’s sight as Ahab did under the influence of his wife Jezebel.” Gentlemen, when you entertain women with the wrong spirit through marriage or by having affairs with them they will incite you and mislead you as you seek to please them
11. Submission is for both the man and the woman. In Ephesians 5: 21, under the title “Instruction for Christian households”, just before the text about submission by wives, the Bible says “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”. Submitting means putting down the “I”, so that there can be a “We” to the glory of God. Husbands, before you demand your wife to submit, have you put down your ego?
12. The wrong partner will use your secrets against you. In Judges 16, Samson confided in Delilah about his weaknesses despite Delilah sharing his secrets previously with others. Despite the many red flags, he opened up to her and that led to his downfall. Do you trust your partner to not use your secrets against you?
13. Leave your father and mother if you want to enjoy oneness in marriage. The same Bible that says honour your parents, also says “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” in Genesis 2. In marriage, as you honour your parents, learn to put a boundary so that they don’t interfere with your oneness as a couple
14. You will not be punished for the sins of your fathers. Ezekiel 18: 20 says “The person who sins will die. The son will not bear the punishment for the father’s iniquity, nor will the father bear the punishment for the son’s iniquity; the righteousness of the righteous will be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked will be upon himself.” Stop being worried about generational curses. Unlearn the bad mannerisms you learnt from the environment you grew up in. Whether your grandparents or parents behaved badly or not, choose to be your own person with your own values
15. Ladies, be careful not to be so weak that you are led astray by people posing themselves as Godly. “They are the kind who work their way into people’s homes and win the confidence of vulnerable women who are burdened with the guilt of sin and controlled by various desires.” (2 Timothy 3: 6). This chapter warns about men of God who hold to some form of Godliness and use that to mislead or take advantage of naive women. Ladies, discern. Don’t let a religious leaders mislead you to breaking your home
16. As you raise a child not biologically yours, you never know what that child might become. Pharaoh’s daughter raised Moses (not biologically hers) who ended being a great leader. Eli raised Samuel (not biologically his) who became a great prophet. Joseph raised Jesus (not biologically his) with Mary who ended becoming the Messiah. You can raise a child not biologically yours into greatness
17. Ladies, don’t trust every man who says “I love you”. In 2 Samuel 13, Amnon said that he loves Tamar as a way to lure her. He raped her and thereafter, hated her more than he loved her. Discern what someone means when they say they love you. Some say it because they want something from you
18. Wisdom is not permanent but something you continuously seek. Don’t let your blessings make you proud and rebellious. Despite asking God for wisdom and being blessed with it, King Solomon became proud, unrepentant, rebellious, harsh to the people he led and mismanaging the future of his kingdom that divided. Maintain the same humility you had even as God blesses you
19. Find friends who will cover you and carry you in your moment of need. The paralytic man had friends who loved him enough to carry him up and lower him from the roof top so that Jesus might heal him. Surround yourself with friends who will be there for you at your moments of weakness (Luke 5: 18 – 25)
20. Don’t be a corrupt couple. “Now a man named Ananias, together with his wife Sapphira, also sold a piece of property. With his wife’s full knowledge he kept back part of the money for himself, but brought the rest and put it at the apostles’ feet” (Acts 5: 1-2) This couple suffered punishment. Don’t conspire as a couple to do wrong